Friday 17 February 2012

How to be an ordinary hero



In an attempt to combat bullying, the provincial government is calling on Quebecers to act as 'ordinary heroes.'  How fitting.  In a time when hockey is one of the few things that brings Quebec's society together, the government wants us to all work together to make the province a better place.  Why don't we start with crossing east or west past St-Lawrence Boulevard?  It might take an 'ordinary hero' to do that.  At least that hero would take the first literal steps towards unity in a province that has been torn apart for hundreds of years.


I have met many inspiring heroes thus far.  There have been teachers, parents, children.  The one that stands out the most is a former student; a teenager that was expelled from high school the day he turned 16 years old.  On that day, I witnessed the school's administration tell him that he would not ever amount to anything.  Imagine... How would you feel?  I would give up.  But he did just the opposite.  He registered in adult education classes and, with hard work, dedication and perseverance, he graduated from high school and is currently attending Dawson College.  He is responsible, holds a part-time job and acts as a role model to his younger siblings.  He teaches them to stand up for themselves in positive ways and to think before they act.  Just 5 years ago, all of these actions would have been impossible for him.  To me, he is an ordinary hero. 

So make a difference in somebody's life today. Do something nice for someone else.  Just smiling at someone can make a difference!  Let's prove to the government that we will not pass on the responsibility of our children and the harsh and severe reality of bullying to anyone else.  Let's take ownership of this issue and work together to combat it.  Let's make a difference today!  Do you know anyone who is an ordinary hero?  Honor them by commenting on this post and sharing their story!

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Thursday 9 February 2012

Stigma

I've been dealing a lot with issues of stigma, in my personal life and in my professional life.  What exactly should someone my age have accomplished in their life by now?  What are society's expectations?  Why am I so hard on myself? Why are my expectations of myself so high?  What if I succeed?  How will I know?  Better yet, what if I fail?  What if everything that I've worked for does not pan out.  And how will I even know if I succeed or fail?  It is based on society's labels anyways.   

The more I think about the world around me, the more I realize that we are all trying to understand the world through some type of label,category or standard.  And the end result?  Discrimination.  Stigmatization.  Profiling.  Stereotyping.  Everywhere I turn, I see it happening.  

I am currently teaching my grade 9 students about the Holocaust.  The way I teach it is not through facts.  I want them to use the experience as a way to understand the world around them.  I want them to be able to see what I see.  I want them to use their knowledge to never stay silent when they see something that should not be happening.  I want them to implement the morals and values in their daily lives.  

I usually try to teach about the Holocaust in January and February, just in time for Black History Month.  Learning about the Holocaust is not about facts or memorization.  As a matter of fact, there is not one date or name or place that actually matters in the way I teach.  It is the lessons that we must learn from these atrocious acts of inhumanity that we must learn about.  That is why I always show "A Class Divided" when I teach about the Holocaust.  It is Jane Elliot's grade three experiment from the 1960's after the murder of Martin Luther King.  She segregates and instills hatred in her grade three students based on the color of their eyes.  She feeds her students false statements: people with blue eyes are smarter that people with brown eyes, etc. And what we see in a matter of minutes is that hatred, discrimination and intolerance develops in the classroom.  I then relate this type of 'faulty talk' to Hitler's messages of propaganda.  It is all related.  All discrimination and violence and racism and sexism and intolerance is the same: it stems from faulty and untrue beliefs.  

This month, why not teach your children about respect, virtue, being kind, generosity and inclusion.  Take them to one of the many events for Black History Month.  Here's the website link for a detailed list of what is happening in Montreal: www. montrealblackhistorymonth.com

Also, read this article for more information: http://www.montrealgazette.com/life/Role+models+spotlight/6075657/story.html








Wednesday 1 February 2012

Don't abandon your team

While the Canadiens have been going through this terrible slump, my grandmother, a forever fan, gave me some advice: "Don't give up on your team.  Have some faith!"  My response at the time? "But we suck."  And that was that.  I was aggravated with the team, the performance, the coaches, the management, the trade, the losing streaks... In a city like Montreal where one of the only things that unites all of its people is 'Les Canadiens,' hopelessness was setting in.  As a matter of fact, it seemed like the disappointment of our hockey team was making headline news on a regular basis.  Also, there were language division issues being displayed at the games; where was our winning team when we needed them?  They create a unity and positive aura that infects our city and helps it thrive. Even so, with all the disappointment, my grandmother continued to tell me: "Don't abandon your team!"

When I think about the word abandon, it seems so extreme in nature: TO GIVE UP COMPLETELY.  And during the months of January and February, when we are all tired of the days being so long and gloomy, the cold weather, the darkness and the discontent that this brings, we need something to perk us up; something to get excited about.  We need an extra boost.  So do our kids.  And they do not just need it during the gloomy months of January and February, but they need it all year-round.  Remember this cheerleader idea that I keep writing about?  Now is as good a time as ever to start cheerleading for your child, even if your child is older and in high school.

CJAD recently dedicated some time to discuss Kid Kop Foundation, an organization dedicated to raising monies to establish police offices in high schools across Quebec.  There were a lot of questions raised: Do we really need these types of measures to be implemented in Quebec?  Are we at par with the US on high school violence levels?  Does this seem extreme?  Will it help?  Is it intimidating?  IS THIS REALLY NECESSARY? 

What did I get out of this discussion?  People in the education sector are abandoning our youth.  Think about it: if you are constantly monitored by measures of intimidation and fear, would you be able to succeed at school?  This is what the police in the schools would implement, right?  The idea is that students will not be violent, bully other kids and/or participate in other behaviors that are inappropriate if the police are present to scare them out of it.  Putting fear into our children must work.. I think NOT!  In my experience, youth will either rebel against this type of system, become better at hiding what they are doing, or do it outside of school hours or property.

Let's look at the other side of the issue:  the police could serve as role models for our youth.  This way, they will be able to build strong relationships with kids and in turn, the kids will internalize the proper moral and ethical values that are required in society.  This program does not discuss the police becoming integrated into the school's microcosmic society.  Further, it does not talk of police personally developing relationships with the youth.  Are police officers even qualified to do so?  Again, from my experience, what happens in these types of situations is that open-minded students who follow the rules become engaged and involved, while youth who actually need the program will fall under the radar. 

It just seems like we, as a society, are giving up on our kids...COMPLETELY.  We are sending them to school, blaming the teachers, bringing in the police and hoping that things will work out.  Are we really crossing our fingers and leaving it up to other people and luck?  These are OUR children that we are talking about!  Instead, don't give up on them. Become their guides.  Become their cheerleaders.  Become their greatest supporters.  Instead of starting a movement to create fear in our schools, why not work with our own children and teach them how to behave: with respect, with compassion, with support, with open arms.  Won't these values help make our society better?  And why not monitor that your children are actually implementing the values that you have taught them?  Make sure that you are involved in your child's life on a daily basis!  In a city that does not give up on its hockey team, can't we afford a little bit of time to not giving up on our children?  Can't we try to unite our city in this way?  Perhaps we can add this issue of unity to the hockey roster for this season. Just a thought...

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